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Dear RSA,
How do you tell a girl you want a blow job without sounding too demanding?
Andrew, Syracuse

Andrew,
Excellent question. There's a really easy answer to this one: before you ask her for a BJ...eat out her pussy. Then she can't turn you down after that without seeming selfish and uptight. If you want the benefits without making the first move, initiate a conversation about what gets each of you off and what kinds of things you would like to try in bed or when you're fooling around. When it's your turn, tell her you would really, really love for her to suck your cock, it would turn you on so much, etc. Most likely, she will want to try to make you happy and will oblige. The catch is, if you're not going to be a total jerk, you have to do at least one of the things she asked for. Fair is fair - don't expect to get something for nothing.