Hitchhiker's Guide to the G-Spot
If you diligently followed our Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Clit, hopefully you’ve successfully located the elusive clitoris and are using this discovery to your advantage. While conquering the clitoris a major accomplishment for any man, the clit is only the tip of the iceberg when it comes to exploring the female genitalia. Now we’ll take you on a journey into her inner passages, as we go in search of the mysterious and legendary G-spot.
G Is for “God, That Feels Good”
The G-spot is sort of the female equivalent of the prostate gland in males. In women, this structure is called the urethral sponge, and like the prostate, it surrounds a portion of the urethra before it exits the body. In men, the prostate is stimulated by pressing on the anterior (front) wall of the rectum. In women, it can be reached from within the vagina. And just as stimulating the prostate can enhance orgasm and ejaculation for men, stimulating the G-spot can greatly boost orgasm for the woman, creating a more intense climax, and in some cases, female ejaculation.
Get the Feel for It
To locate the G-spot, turn your palm upward to face the ceiling and insert two fingers into her vagina. Feel the upper surface of the vaginal wall for a rough-feeling bump about the size of a half a walnut. The surface here may feel kind of ridged, like the roof of your mouth just behind your front teeth. If you insert your fingers all the way into her vagina, then bend them slightly like you’re beckoning someone towards you and start to pull them out, your fingertips should bump right into and come to rest on the G-spot. It should feel firm, but a little squishy.
Put the Pressure On
To stroke the G-spot, hook the fingers upward and pull towards you. This should move the G-spot into contact with the pubic bone. The G-spot will then be compressed between the pubic bone and your fingers. Slide your fingers out part way, keeping firm pressure against the spot. As you slide your fingers back in, nudge against the G-spot with the flat part of your fingers. Don’t poke at it with your fingertips. Repeat the “come here” motion with your fingers as you stroke in and out. Another way to stimulate the G-spot is to do a gentle squeeze-and-release massage. Locate the G-spot and compress it against the inside of the pubic bone as described above. Then use your fingers to press and release the spot rhythmically, “milking” it. You can also keep steady pressure on the spot and slowly rock your fingers back and forth, pulling them toward you slightly, then moving them away from you. Try a few different strokes and see what elicits the best response.
Bringing It All Together
As you’re pressing on her G-spot and her arousal builds, it should feel slightly different to her than clitoral stimulation alone. The feelings may seem deeper and more intense. The feeling of having to pee should go away, and be replaced by a pleasurable warmth and an urgency to climax. When she comes, the orgasm may be much stronger than what she usually experiences. Don’t be surprised if her whole body writhes and contracts with sweet convulsions of ecstasy.
Making Her Squirt
When you first begin to explore the G-spot, you don’t have to make female ejaculation a goal. It’s not likely to happen the first time, but as you become more familiar with the G-spot and how to stimulate it, you can work up to trying for an ejaculation. The trick is to prolong the stimulation as long as possible before she climaxes, to really get the juices primed. If the glands are really swollen, she may feel like she is going to pee as she climaxes. Tell her to just let it go and bear down and push out with her pelvic muscles. This will help release and expel the built up fluids. It’s a good idea to put a towel under her beforehand to soak up the wetness, and it will make her less worried about having an accident.
Hitting the Spot
Including the G-spot in sex takes a little extra effort and concentration, so you probably won’t want to seek out her special zone for every session. But when you do, brace yourself for bed-shaking, teeth-rattling, digging-her-fingernails-into-your-back climaxes. You’ll both be rewarded by the work that goes into finding her G-spot and waking it up…although the neighbors may not appreciate it when her orgasmic screaming wakes them up.
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